October 9th, 2020 by kwmccabe
Life After Divorce
What does divorce really mean? How does it affect us? What’s life like after a divorce?
These questions are important to consider when going through a life-changing transition such as divorce or separation. The grief and loss that one can feel during such times can be nearly as devastating as losing someone to death.
A period of time dedicated to healing is essential after a divorce. One can often feel as though a part of themselves is missing, life has lost meaning, and they are not sure how to continue. They might even experience denial or attempt to bargain their way back into the relationship. These are all normal reactions–in fact they are part of the normal grief reactions described in Kubler Ross’s Stages of Grief:
It’s important to know that these stages might not happen in a certain order, or complete once the grieving person has reached acceptance. Sometimes the grieving process can skip and jump through the stages and recycle itself before finally completing.
The most important thing to remember while healing is that this process of grief is normal–and it takes time. Even if, and possibly especially if, your relationship was toxic and unhealthy, the grieving process might be something you experience before finally entering a state of healing.